Forgiveness, A Weeks Worth Of Words In A Successful Marriage Pt.2
Welcome back. We are still on the subject of words that can and should change your life in marriage as well as your family. Our word for today is forgiveness.
When it comes to who has the right to forgive or not forgive can be a matter of great concern especially if you are trying your best to better yourself in your relationships.
When one takes or makes the choice to pronounce a decision upon someone else for reasons that seem to defy rationality, you have just made a judgment. And we all should remember that judgment is without mercy to the one who shows no mercy. Some would define that as receiving your just due. What goes around will eventually come around. These will be some great unhappy marriage tips for all.
Your best advice in this matter is to not keep track or keep a record when it comes to forgiveness. A one for one attitude towards the evil that your spouse seemingly heaps upon you in a fit of rage will only serve to cause more resentment and anger in your married life. It is not always easy to be the bigger person when you feel that you have been wronged…especially when you may not even know the why of it.
Unforgiveness is like a deadly disease in a successful marriage. One of the worst things you can encounter during your love life is that not meaning what you way. Parents play this game with children when to spout empty threats. Don’t make me come in there…and you don’t actually go in there…or if you do that one more time…and it’s already been the third-fourth-fifth time already. What is a child to think when they push that button and continually get away with it because they are using their little digital calculators to add up the times that you never carry out your mandates for their punishment.
Imagine living like that with your spouse. Always making empty promises.
You will be judged by the very standard that you yourself tend to judge others.
You need to here and now reverse that trend and become not only a better person, lover and friend to your mate, but to become a shinning example what it means to be in a successful marriage.
Forgiveness is not enabling, always helping someone in the opposite way that they need help. Forgiveness is not rescuing, saving someone from the consequences of their wrong doing or ill-will. Forgiveness is not risking or putting yourself or your spouse at risk.
It may seem like a real crisis when you have to choose to forgive, but it is the process that gets you through and leads to a successful marriage and family life.
Saying things that confirm your willingness to make the commitment work like …”I will not bring the problems of past up to you…or…I will not bring up our problems to others…and most important of all I will not keep bringing the past up to myself.”
You see, when you forgive, damaging emotions get eliminated, bitterness-wrath-anger-clamor-slander and malice are no longer a part of your life…and that makes for a very happy and successful marriage.
Be sure to come back as we continue looking at the weeks worth of words to a successful marriage.