Marriage, Trueness Versus Newness
There is a saying that: If it is true, it is not new…If it is new, then it is not true.
In a healthy and successful marriage, this is a daily discovery that men and women come to realize without end.
That is the whole point of marriage is it not? The discovery phase of the relationship. Well at least it was in the beginning. Curiosity was at it’s height when we were dating and after getting serious enough to make that next step. Don’t get ahead of me!
As I look back on those of summer days and evenings of chasing butterflies and fireflies, life had it’s own deliberate purpose and I had come to the realization that I could not control it…nor did I want to control it…it was after all, perfect.
Certainly true in every sense of the word … and new enough to never want to let it go.
I speak of the marriage relationship in terms of knowing that moment in time when things simply could not have been any better. A time when you could easily shut out the rest of the meddling, dishonest, hurting world and be thankful for your life. A time when you did not have to explain every little item of your personal feelings about what you said or did…it was simply understood. Kind of like when a persons word was his bond. A handshake spoke volumes.
The newness of marriage stares life square in the face of reality and defies it to make a difference. I mean that you simply can not get or have a better outlook in a relationship than that of being married. It encompasses every nuance of the best there is that a relationship has to offer to the pleasant extreme and the daunting worst that mankind can inflict upon us.
That my friend is exactly why and when you discover the trueness of life upon finding the one special person that you want to run through fields chasing butterflies by day and fireflies by night with, you discover that nothing else really matters.
Marriage holds true the thoughts that love, money, trust, hope and security are all the blessings of good fortune that will forever entwine two people “til death us do part”.
Either that or her first home cooked meal because she had never cooked a meal before!
Ahhhh…the ties that bind us together.
If it is true, it is not new…If it is new, then it is not true.
Not quite the conundrum that some will have you believe what married life is all about. Respect and authority rules with an iron, firm, yet fair and just hand when two people come together to be as one. It is out of that dedication and love for one another that a successful marriage is birthed, raised and starts a long and winding road to forever together.
Very much like the 30 plus years that have kept me entertained thus far!
I have no doubt whatsoever that you will find and share this sentiment if you have not already. Whether trueness or newness, you will find your way to happiness and one day will pass on your thoughts, trials and tribulations as well as all the joys that you put in your bucket of life to claim as your rights to a successful marriage.
I applaud you.
A Friend in Business and Life…Always,