How To Be A Great Husband
Just being romantic has to mean a variety of things to each and every person, but as you and I both know, romance involves doing that little extra to express affection in a meaningful and sometimes unexpected way. Unfortunately, a lot cannot be done the way you want because of money and finances. We know that the true act of romance requires creativity and above all sincerity, which is often inspired by love.
One of the better ways is to treat your wife like you are single…, remember when you were trying to earn her affection and trust. And we all know that the opposite of being romanced can and will backfire when it presented as some kind love sick game and gets taken for granted. No one wants to feel like they have already been trapped…because quicker than you can blink…it’s over and done with.
In a marriage relationship, communication is the best policy. Having your finances in order can be a great help with that. It can at times be difficult, but the simple truth allows relationships to breathe. No matter what happens, no one can ever challenge the fact that you are truthful, which in itself means that the other person will invariably end up giving you the same respect. When communicating with your lovely, believe me, they will be the first to let you know if something does not suit them and if it does not feel right or good… they will not trust you or your opinion in love, marriage, romance or money.
Listen cowboy, let’s not get ahead of the horse here. While you are dreaming up ways to win her affections…make sure not to talk her ear off, … but do make sure that if you have any problems that could possibly affect her mood, she is made aware of the reasons for those concerns, so that you do not appear to merely be a lone ranger from the third realm of zork.
Make her the center of everything around you when you’re talking to her. If you ask her a question, ask because you really want to know the answer. And above all, please….pay attention to that answer. You would be surprised how far that little gesture will carry you up the mountain of love, affection and understanding.
In discussing opinions, try to “see” into her vision of her explanations and come away with a “why” that she feels or thinks the way she does. Even if you are wrong, your mate will usually love the fact that you were interested enough to even try.
Also, do not get off the horse (your trusty old steed of understanding relationships) too early either. Remember, the opposite of talking too much is…not waiting too long…and that is listening. Make sure you are really actually listening, not just waiting for your for turn to insert some interesting little quip that makes you look good. Make certain that you are earnest in your looks and actions because that tells her that she can tell you anything. Make her feel safe in being with you.
Great husbands make great men because those men honor their commitments, accept their duties, portray their loyalties and are accountable for any and all damages, debts and other problematic happenings they make along the way in the relationship.
Be a man and clean up after yourself and your finances (figuratively and literally). In sharing responsibility, both men and women know that anyone can father a child… but only a man who understands and accepts that responsibility can be a good father.
How to be a great husband means that you refuse to make anyone do anything they themselves are unwilling to do.
I’ll be back next time with another fun look at our marriage and relationships…in the meantime, stay safe and love lots!