Don’t Just Sit, Soak And Sour For A Successful Marriage
There comes a time in every one’s life when they ask that inevitable question about their existence, their reason for being…they ask…just what am I doing here?
In a successful marriage, that day or time usually comes with a great change in attitude in the relationship. And that usually comes about when there has been a difference of opinion. The proverbial storm brewing in paradise. The problem happens when you just sit, soak and sour.
In order to overcome this little paradox, don’t just sit, soak and sour.
Don’t just sit around getting lost in the excuses of what happened and wondering what you could could have done better or what you could have done to prevent it from happening in the first place. It is when you sit sour and soak that you get blindsided by negativity and you waste an awful lot of precious time justifying your existence in the relationship and your married life in particular. Being an inactive participant can only cause more harm and leads to despair and depression. Or, if you are an overactive participant it goes totally in the opposite direction and anger and frustration rears it ugly head and makes married life miserable and uncomfortable for both parties. For a successful marriage, don’t just sit soak and sour.
Whatever you do don’t get mired and confused about your relationship. A successful marriage requires that you don’t just soak in your troubles like frog legs being tenderized for dinner! Take charge of the situation early and resolve any and all things that are coming between you. Face to face – talk about it.
Don’t lose sight of the purpose for getting married in the first place. Love, joy, comfort and security. You made promises and vows to each other to support and care for through the thick and thin of it all. To sit and soak is to admit defeat and give in. You are much better than that. Life is short you need to break the rules, forgive quickly, kiss slowly, love truly, laugh uncontrollably…and never regret anything that made you smile.
To become sour is to give the devil his due. Carrying hate and mistrust around on display like a gigantic chip on your married shoulders is just heartbreaking. Again I say, You are much better than that. Don’t just sit, soak and sour.
That sour attitude not only ruins your chances at a successful marriage, but it becomes part of you internally and it carries over into so many other parts of your life. People can see it in your eyes and on your face. You become the person that people want to stay away from instead of being the kind generous forgiving and loving person that your spouse knows that you are…and deep down inside you too know that you are as well.
This did not start out or was intended to be a pep talk, but I just gotta say…I am your biggest fan. I am behind you 110%! To have a successful marriage and make it to the 30 plus year mark means that you are striving for long lasting perfection in your relationship.
Until the next time, go nautical…fair weather, smooth seas and good sailing. There’s more to a successful marriage than to just sit soak and sour.
A Friend in Business and Life…Always,