Marriage, Stick To The Issues – Not The Emotion

Saturday, August 20th, 2011 at 6:50 pm

In the glorious world of matrimony and to be on point, you need to stick to the issues and not the emotions that make a good marriage happen. It’s usually those very emotions that causes the rift that begins a long road to recovery.
You see…Those things we tend to call issues turn out to be the day to day routine items that keep us going. You know…the little things.

You know that saying that what does not serve to hinder you….serves to make you stronger…well those are the emotions that keep us
going. You have no doubt heard it stated in other words, but it is the same statement.

“The is no more lovely, friendly, and charming relationship, communion, or company than a good marriage.”
Martin Luther

Marriage and married life can lead to some pretty challenging subjects. Issues versus emotions would probably make a pretty good book or movie title! Have you ever noticed just how passionate people can be in the heat of the moment? Amazing!

But we all know that things in a book or on a movie screen are not always the way things really are in true and real life. After-all, my “issues” usually turn out to be her “emotions”.

Take for instance those times thus far in my 30 year quest of being on the road to forever together whereby I make one of those innocent
statements (that makes perfect sense to me), but causes a flood of tears or even worse one of those looks that can stop a charging bull
cold at 30 paces.

All I did was make a comment about all the trouble advertisers seem to be going thru to sell a pair of pants and the way those jeans
looked on that lady on the TV.

Who knew! What did I say?

Obviously I didn’t do my homework.

Married persons take note. Do not make anything remotely suggestive into a topic of trivial conversation that you do not intimately intend to share with your spouse.

I can without a doubt confirm, that those issues will be the issues that turn into emotions.

Matters not if it is a hammer and nails with him or shoes and a casserole with her…be afraid…be very very afraid.

Stick to the issue not the emotion. You have been warned!

Say what you mean and most importantly mean what you say. Words in marriage are the strongest bonds that keep you together.

Until next time my friend…

-Lon-