Enduring Marriage Without Having To Endure

Wednesday, July 20th, 2011 at 10:11 pm

“Before marriage, a man will go home and lie awake all night thinking about something you said; after marriage, he will go to sleep before you finish saying it. “ Helen Rowland

It’s like breathing. We have become such an automated world that we just don’t think about some things. When I met and married my lovely, one of the few remaining free thoughts was the one where the words echo deep in your ears and rattle around inside your brain…”I will be spending the rest of my life with this person….repeat….spending the rest of my life with this person”.

There is a saying that great minds tend to think alike. Well that certainly can be considered a cornerstone in the foundation of a marriage. Like a lot of you, mine was no exception…and probably no doubt will be for many others yet to come too.
Aw, come on…give some credit to your thoughts in the beginning with the love of your life. (OK…OK….I’ll stop meddling.)

When it comes to married life, one of the worst things you can do in adversity is to go into isolation…it drains your energy.
Go ahead, have your pity party…and when you’re done…decide you’re going to BE a better person. As for me…in my mind, I’m the greatest thing since sliced bread! (It’s OK…she’s out of the room.)

Many a man has long contended that happiness and truth in marriage is relative and not universal and unchanging. Believe it or not, we do live for the love and comfort of a caring spouse and a long life together.

Alfred Whitehead wrote in his work, “Modes of thought” the following…the simpleminded use of the notions right or wrong is one of the chief obstacles to the progress of understanding. Ain’t married life wonderful.

Whatever works is deemed right regardless of how the result is achieved. Sometimes married folks today tend to act as if there is no right or wrong, but all that matters is the end result, regardless of the process.

Relativity is the concept that there are no absolutes!

You don’t get to go 30 years plus of being married without a battle of wits. Relative or absolute…without a process of communication (you really have to get over that who’s right or wrong hump) and see what life is about between the two of you.

There is just so much fun to be had and once you begin to realize that….man…time really does fly…in a good way.

-Lon-